A little self-criticism is a normal shared human mental pattern and can even be healthy for the most part.
However, if your negative voice is preventing you from doing what you want or need to do in your life, then it has to get booted back out the door. This kind of mental chatter has no right to set up shop in your mind.
Deeply held negative beliefs, especially when they’re firmly rooted in your subconscious, stress you out, damage relationships and can greatly limit your potential for health and happiness.
If you’re tired of having conversations with the voices in your head that aren’t serving you well, then you’ll want to try some of the ideas in this blog post on how you can shift away from this damaging mindset and finally release yourself from these self-sabotaging beliefs.
What are self-limiting beliefs?
Self-limiting beliefs are the little, but persistent, voices that convince you that you can’t be or do or have something due to a perceived inadequacy in some area of your life or personality.
Your self-sabotaging narrative usually goes something like this:
I won’t ever be [this]…
I can’t do [that]…
I don’t have [this]…
I don’t deserve to be/have [this]…
And, one really common one that comes up for many people:
I am not good enough.
Let’s change up the narrative you may have been having with yourself for a very long time.
Overcoming negative self-talk and releasing self-limiting beliefs
Your self-limiting decisions have shaped everything you do, and they have likely prevented you from seeing opportunities and maybe even discouraged you from trying some things at all.
The good news is that it’s totally possible to permanently change a long-held belief — even the ones that are lifelong.
You only perceive what you believe, so your beliefs shape the very world you live in.
But, when your self-limiting beliefs come into question, your whole world can experience a shift for the better.
Below are a few ideas to help you silence your inner critic for good.
When you find yourself feeling “stuck,” or repeatedly spinning your wheels on the same speed bumps that life might be throwing your way, there are several things you can do on your own, in your own time and space to stop your self-sabotage.
Shift your thinking into AWARENESS
It’s time to bring those disempowering thoughts out of hiding. Once you do that, know that you have a choice.
However, simply being aware or having knowledge of them is not enough; it’s only the first step. You must understand and truly believe that you have a choice about how to react to stressful situations.
Possible thinking, not just positive thinking
Your mind is a powerful thing, and when you fill it with thoughts of what’s possible (not just positive), your mindset will start to shift.
When you believe something IS possible, you will notice options and opportunities coming up for you that would simply not have been noticed if you did not believe it was possible.
With repetition, your positive feelings will intensify, the new neural connections will strengthen, and you’ll start to notice just how awesome this new “win” really feels.
Reminding yourself often of these little wins can further shift your mindset and help you embrace the bright side of your perceived “failures” or shortcomings. It also helps to simply accept that you are perfectly imperfect, just the way you are!
If you wouldn’t say it to your friend, don’t say it to yourself
Your self-limiting beliefs are assumptions you make about reality that often aren’t true. They aren’t helpful, and they certainly don’t serve you or the goals you want to achieve.
Ask yourself: would I say these negative, hurtful and unsupportive words to a friend?
Adopt empowering beliefs such as:
“It isn’t my job to please everyone else.”
“Just be me. There will never be anyone else like me.”
To swap out your limiting belief with a more empowering one, you’ll need to play a little mind game:
Convince yourself that the value you thought you were getting from the former self-limiting belief isn’t worthwhile and that your new empowering belief can serve to fill this void.
Take some time and space that’s all yours
Ensure that you are creating space in your life for these new empowering beliefs. Take action, and get into the habit of using your new beliefs as often as possible until they begin to feel comfortable, familiar and routine to you.
Just remember: you have the ability to harness the power of the possible! Overcoming negative self-talk and releasing yourself from self-limiting beliefs takes commitment, introspection and a good dose of self-confidence to make the necessary changes stick.
There’s the old saying that we view ourselves through a much harsher lens than the rest of world does. So, let’s try to bring our own lens back into focus.
How aware of your self-limiting beliefs are you? Do you judge yourself harshly for your beliefs? What would happen in your life if you silenced your negative beliefs? Please comment below. As always, we love to hear from you.